I never thought to look for the clip on YouTube
I never thought to look for the clip on YouTube
“We all want things we can’t have. Being a decent human being is accepting that.”
― John Fowles,
According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, levels of dopamine — the pleasure chemical in the brain — continue to rise the longer you must wait to fulfill your desire (Elite Daily).
Is it a way of our subconscious telling us we don’t want what we think we want? For instance, you’re single yet desire someone out of reach, is that a way of our minds telling us we don’t really want or need a relationship yet? To slow down? Is it forbidden fruit, as in when your parents say “don’t touch the drinks cabinet”? So you sneak a glass when they’re out for the evening (and then feel ill and have to try hide why). Or your diet plan says “don’t eat that chocolate bar” so it’s immediately all we think about, crave, desire, the feel of smooth chocolate melting on your tongue … sorry, I got a bit lost there.
Sometimes wanting something out of reach is good, it helps you rise out of your comfort zone and chase your dreams. It gives us that impetus to strive harder, be better, reach higher. My question I guess is – when do we know what we desire is good or bad for us? Where is that line drawn between wanting for the good of our soul, mind, body, and wanting because – well because we can’t have and deep inside know it will be wrong for us in the long run? How do we tell the difference?
Jaffa was jostled / squished in the pack / he wanted some space / not a poke in the back
He wriggled a bit / he wraggled a lot / the wrapping gave way / he was off like a shot
Rolled over the table / stopped short at the edge / bet you just thought / he would fall off the ledge
You were so mistaken
He lay there confused / his chocolate was cracking / oh how he wished / he was back in his packing
A strange smell surrounded / potent and strong / Jaffa instinctively / felt something was wrong
Five digits approached him / four fingers one thumb / they grabbed for poor Jaffa / oh what had he done
He felt himself lifted / like a leaf he was soaring / to a strange odd contraption / where liquid was pouring
The digits they held him / they pinched at his rim / then ever so slowly / they dipped Jaffa in…
…to the liquid so smelly / it caught in his throat / then Jaffa was sailing / just like a boat
But he didn’t sail long / his sponge started sponging / and ever so slowly / poor Jaffa was sinking
Down in the liquid / and Jaffa’s last thoughts / were wishing and hoping /
As someone pointed out earlier – this time last week we were partying in London. Today I was sat home, doing my accounts (yes very late I know I’ve apologised to my accountant), and recovering from a chest infection.
As we all know, what happens at a con stays at a con. Suffice to say …
THANK YOU – to Sean Harry and the three wonderfully fun actors who gave up their new year to party with us. It was my first new year single, it was the first new year in over 20 years I wasn’t home on my own with the kids, and it was a totally, epically, awesomely, fabulous new year.
MUCH LOVE _ to all my friends who made the convention such a happy place for me to be. Apologies for the meltdown at midnight, I was so overwhelmed at being out with my friends, felt so much love and warmth around me, and full of relief for the end of 2015 which was a totally rubbish year for me.
HIGHLIGHTS – so many of them, laughing with friends, eating sherbert (ahem), getting doused with whisky – again, discovering Drambuie (thanks Simon), the list could go on.
I truly love my Starfury family. I was asked recently if I could change one thing in my past what would it be … I can honestly say that high on the possibles is the wish I’d started going to conventions with you guys earlier than 2013.
So here’s to 2016 and beyond. May it be filled with laughter, dancing, JD, and jaffa cakes (though not both together please).
As my friends know, 2015 was a very difficult year for me – separation, family illnesses, my depression, empty nest, culminating in being let go from my part time job two days after Christmas due to lack of available hours. Huge sigh.
Yet I am still positive and I am setting scary, big goals and dreams for 2016. I am saying “fuck the fear” I am putting myself out there to the ‘verse and saying “this is me, love me or not I will be happy within myself”.
The end of the year is a time for reflection, to check in with yourself. To see what went adrift, what were your successes, failures, changes. I am trying to look at my year as a growing phase, accepting everything that happened (good and bad) as necessary for me to get where I am today – happier and more in tune with myself – and using it as a springboard to an amazing 2016 and beyond.
Today I ponder, tomorrow I will be looking ahead, seeing what greatness I can achieve in the coming year.
So goodbye 2015, and welcome 2016.
I’ve been doing an awful lot of business planning lately and realised yesterday that I need to do some personal planning too, balance my life so to speak. After all I am not just my work am I?
I will be continuing my self-development process, learning, growing my potential – so that’s sorted. I want to read more, fact and fiction, there’s so many books out there and so little time
But in this instance the plans and goals I am thinking of are more to do with my physical surroundings. For one reason or many others I’ve let my surroundings become untidy and unkempt. Not to a slovenly degree but enough that I now need to give my home some TLC. So here’s my goal for the end of the year…
Decorating – firstly my library/geek room. It hasn’t been redecorated in about fifteen years and while it looks OK it needs smartening up. I have a colour scheme in mind to make it bright but restful. It doesn’t get a lot of natural light so I have to make sure I keep that in mind.
Secondly, my bedroom. It’s become a bit of a dumping ground over the last few years so I am gradually clearing out the clutter and then going to totally redecorate including curtains and bedding. I already know it is going to be lilac with grey and silver – cool colours because it gets the sun all day. I have not had a beautiful bedroom for years and I
think know I deserve it.
Two goals – ones I will have to work hard and save up for but which will make me feel good. Oh, I don’t mean me decorating I mean paying someone to come in and do it professionally for me.
PS Goal for July 2017 is to be financially able to buy a brand new (or damned near) car as I’ve never had one of those either. Hey, if you don’t dream big 😀
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